Finished putting the car back together last night, got a bit dumb and decided to up the torque by 10 to 110 Ft/lbs and it felt normal , turned a little bit before my torque wrench gave me the "click click" so i called it good.
quick quick test drive up and down the street and the pulling to the right under braking is gone. no weird steering wheel shake on brake release either. and wow the bushing (what's left of it) is really destroyed. i should post a pic.
now the car is back to just 1 loose nut as an issue (well that and a gaping hole in my exhaust and missing a muffler) meh ... small issues